Dept. of Why Didn't I think Of It?
I am the first to admit--to warn, even--that I suck with the relating-to-relationships advice. I believe that when it comes to dispensing advice, one ought to be able to claim some kind of expertise, and that the proof is in the pudding, ya better have practiced what you preached, you oughta have some walk to show for your talk. In brief, show me the boyfriend and then point the way.
So I prefer to defer to the expertise of others when it comes to meeting and mating, and just this morning while perusing the new year's first issues of the news magazines, I ran across some relationship advice that seemed so solidly right-on, so clearly the product of tried-and-true experience, that it would be neglectful of me not to pass it along.
Newsweek quotes Kimberly Williams, author of "The Basics: Tantalizing Tips and Techniques for Attracting Good Men," one of those newfangled dating guide things you might have heard of, that all these women of tremendous wisdom and expertise seem to be churning out faster than Paris Hilton can find a new shipping heir. Well, here's Kimberly's most tantalizing tip to attract a good man: Try varying your morning commute. If you drive to work, take the train. If you take the train, get on a bus. New surroundings equal new opportunities to see and be seen.
Oh. My. God. Kimberly, where have you been all my 20's and early 30's?
So, still wondering why men aren't approaching you with stars in their eyes and a pre-nup in their hand? Still puzzled that conjugal bliss eludes you? Still shocked that Mr. Meant To be has not yet spotted you from afar and leap-frogged over every obstacle to beg for your number and, quickly thereafter, your hand? It's because you don't ride the bus, stupid.